Belonging and connection go together. Connectedness is feeling cared for, supported, and like you belong at school, work, with friends and family, and in community. Experiencing connectedness is good for people of all ages. Connected children do better at school and with friends. Connection reduces feelings of loneliness and isolation. Connecting to resources and supports can help people meet their basic needs. Saying “good morning” to the transit driver, having a meal with friends, toasting marshmallows around a fire pit, attending church, mosque, or synagogue, or walking through the neighbourhood with your family to look at holiday lights are great examples of actions that connect. Connecting activities help us be healthy and mentally well, strengthen relationships, and creates belonging in our larger community. Forming connection in our daily lives is important for good mental, emotional, spiritual, and physical health.
While connecting comes naturally to some, it is more difficult for others. One thing that can improve the connections in our lives is mindfulness. Mindfulness happens when we are completely “in” the present moment. Getting rid of distractions allows us to be fully with others and increases our appreciation of social connections in community.
Below are some tips that can help us practice connection and belonging:
- Be present! Listen to listen instead of listening to respond.
- Let go of feeling like you must “do it all.” Think about and act on your own values and beliefs instead of trying to meet unrealistic expectations.
- Let yourself create healthy boundaries. There is no need to always do more or force yourself to do things when you would rather not.
- Create opportunities for connection. If you cannot meet in person, can you connect on the phone or meet virtually?
- Be open and say “yes” to new experiences and opportunities – food, events, hobbies!
- Get to know your community! Who are your neighbours? Are there locally owned businesses? Can you help by volunteering?
- Do what recharges your batteries! Take time for yourself – make “you” a priority. Filling your own cup gives you the energy to connect with others!
